With Age Comes Wisdom (and Hopefully Beauty)

Happy Birthday To Me!
As I celebrate another birthday I’ve learned to embrace age. Today I’m not 30 plus 2, I am 32 and proud of it! Today I am much wiser than last year. I will count the steps in front of me instead of dwelling in those already taken. My new tradition is to celebrate my success and accomplishments on each birthday. The older I get the more fabulous I become. Here’s a nod to the awesomeness that was 31:




  1. I learned to swim and tackled my fear of water
  2. Since I learned to swim, I could snorkel at the barrier reef with sharks and stingrays. How cool is that?!
  3. Managed two Caribbean vacations to Curacao and Belize
  4. Ran my first and subsequently second 5K. I can’t say it’s my favorite form of exercise but it’s a new challenge
  5. Gained 10 pounds, but lost a total of 13 so I’m actually thinner now than last year.
  6. At the encouragement of a few friends I finally started this blog and I am so glad I did

31 was a great year and I can’t wait to experience 32. I challenge you to live for the future and not dwell in the past. Why would I want to be younger when I just get more awesome with every birthday?


October Is the Wrong Shade of Pink

English: pink ribbon

I couldn’t let October pass without giving my two cents on the marketing machine known as Breast Cancer Awareness Month. I think it’s great that there’s an emphasis on creating awareness, but as we know, all attention isn’t good attention. Though October has been the month of awareness since 1985 it’s not been until the last decade that marketers decided to make it “sexy” and “cool” to go pink. It teeters on the line of awareness and exploitation.

Everyone has something pink to sell these days. You can find office supplies, gadgets, accessories, even groceries adorned in pink! There are athletes decked out in it, buildings lit up with it, and stores dedicated to it. What I don’t see are stories putting a face to this terrible disease. Do you know how much of your money from that pink whatever is going towards real cancer research? My guess is 10%. If they’ve already reached their goal for the year it may be 0%. In some cases these products aren’t even affiliated with breast cancer research. As a marketer I get it. We’re “cause” marketing, but as a woman I just feel exploited.

It’s not enough that I live with the fear that breast cancer may one day strike me or my family, but I also live with the memory of a loved one who did not win the fight. Until you’ve witnessed breast cancer firsthand you have no idea how devastating this disease is. Lung cancer I understand, skin cancer makes sense, but breast cancer has no rhyme or reason. As I think about my grandmother’s last day on earth after fighting so hard to beat cancer only to have it re-occur more vicious  than before there’s no pink anything in this world that could erase that pain. I honor her not with tattoos, decals, or trendy things, but by living my life in a way that would make her proud, not just in October.

As you buy your pink products put a little thought behind it. If you want to support breast cancer research just give directly to an organization. For many companies their pink looks more like green to me. Capitalizing on the pain of others under the guise charity is deplorable. I refuse to help them pad their profits in the name of breast cancer and urge you to join me. Since it’s almost November I’m sure we’ll be on to the next cause pretty soon. I’m sure next October will be even pinker.

I made this in honor of my grandmother who lost her fight in September of 2002. Her fight is my motivation.

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My 6 Phrases To Live By

Over the years I’ve developed this list of phrases and sayings to cope with or motivate myself through any situation. I hope you find the meaning in them as well.

  1. The sun will rise tomorrow. No matter how deflated and defeated you may feel always remember that the sun will rise again on a new day and opportunity. It is not the end of the world.
  2. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Drive and determination will take you far in life. Saying what you want means nothing if you aren’t willing to fight and sacrifice to get it. If success were that easy we’d all be living the perfect life now.
  3. Headstones don’t read job titles. Though your work is part of you it does not define you. Remember that once this life is over you don’t want to regret not having more life in your work/life balance.
  4. You can eat an elephant, one bite at a time. We’ve all experienced what seem like insurmountable obstacles and somehow we conquered them. This was one of my grandmother’s favorite sayings. It wasn’t until I got older that I understood what it meant. You can conquer anything if you take it in small chunks.
  5. For every ‘no’ there’s a ‘yes’ waiting.  I like to think of this as my “Vegas odds”. Whenever I get a rejection I see it as increasing my odds for a yes the next time around. Stay positive!
  6. The one thing you can’t change is change. Inevitably things change, people change and you will change (I hope). Not all change is bad. You have to roll with the punches if you want to end up on the right side of change.

What’s phrases or mantras keep you motivated? Share them with me! I’m always looking to add to my list.

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